1 Appointment down, 3 more to go.

Was on leave ytd. Went for our selling first appointment.
Done!
Conservacy charges paid up will 30 Aug 2012

30 Aug 2012 -  that is our selling 2nd appt date too. We got to get the buyers to inspect the house before this date and go for our 2nd appt on this date. Thus pior to this date, we got to vacant the house!
That end our relationship with Sengkang!

 We should be shifting over to Hougang as per Mr Tay wanted, not to woodland --> friend's house le.
That will be saving on rental but also mean lose of freedom! We hope (or I hope) to shorten the stay if possible but things arent going smoothly.

We are getting FSM to audit the new house. If we are able to do so before the 2nd appt date of selling, the ID is able to design as per advise by FSM and we can get the date of reno and shifting in too.
But seller isnt very co-operative now.
They said that they arent comfortable with this arrangement as they are patang about it. Dunno what is there to be patang when they will not be the owner of that house anymore after 4 more months.
We do not have the contact of the seller so we are going thru the agent. We were wondering if the agent did make the phone call to get the permission.
Now we are hoping to talk to the seller ourselves on the 1st appt which is 20th Sept and see if we can get an hour of their time to get the FSM up to audit the house and advise on the reno.
In this way, reno can start earlier and we can move in by end of this year.

Updates!

Last sunday we went up to the house with his uncle to take some basic measurement.
He say reno should be able to complete within a month.
Let's hope really so.

Anyway first appt fixed for the tampines flat, it will be on 20th Sept 1030am.
Next thursday will be first appt for our current flat.
counting down!

Progress

4K cashed!
Now waiting for appointments.
We are trying to ask for longer stay from our buyers after the 2nd appointment.
See if they agreed cos we are in 7th lunar month when the 2nd appt occur.

Then we are requesting to bring our ID (his uncle) up to view the new house this sunday. See if they are free to let us up.

Next, we should be engaging a FSM to aduit the house. To find out more, just hope for everything in our life to be smooth.

Next, share our floor plan layout. Some changes already make by e seller as indicated in Red.
If I got the time and able to figure out, will try to do my own sample designing using floorplanner.com

Option To Purchase - SIGNED

On 13 June, we met our agent and the Seller's agent at the void deck of 207C.
We were presented with the option to purchase form to sign and also to pay up the balance $4k deposit.
With this, we completed the inital process of purchasing the flat.
Now, we need to wait patiently for the 1st appointment, shld be 20 Sept. 2nd Appt likely to be on 15 Nov.
With the completion of the 2nd appt, we will be the owner of the Blk 362 flat as the keys are suppose to be hand over too!. Hope Reno can start latest by 19Nov (15 Nov is a thursday) and complete before the year end.
So we can welcome the new year (if there is no end of world) in the new house!!

Oh, btw beside meeting our agent, we met his wife too, OCBC mortage loan sales manager, to sign up the loan form. HDB need an approval loan form to proceed with the purchasing of flat. :)

Deposit cashed!

The cheque we gave the seller of Blk 362 is a post dated cheque with date as 4th of June. Reason being to exercise the option to purchase at a later date so that handover date of the flat to us will be in Nov12.

I hvnt check on my bank account if the $1,000 deposit had been cash in but it is a sooner or later thingy.
Within 14 days from today, We got to give the balance $4,000 option fee to complete the exercise, for the transaction to go thru.

As of now, we can forgo the $1K and the choose another unit to purchase but the seller cant back out at all.
Anyway we saw that the ad for the unit had been taken down after we place the deposit.

It is like at least a 6 more months to count down before we will shift in the new house..
Long Wait!

Our new nest settled

On the first viewing on 13 May, we came to know that the owner is asking for 45K COV on top of the val 414K
We are not willing to pay that much basing on the house condition.
Major renovation will be needed.
So we went on to view other units, not to our liking.
We still like this one most.
So we went for the 2nd viewing ytd, we neg with the owners etc.. Actually not me, mostly done by Mr Tay and the agent.
We came to a conclusion of 31K cov.
We paid a $1K deposit, waiting for 4of Jun to excerise the option to purchase.
Reason being the owner request to move out only in mid of Nov. We agreed to that so first appt for this new place will only be in Sep12.
Hope to start reno ASAP when we take over the place and hope we can move in by end of 2012, celebrate Xmas, New Year count down! haha...

Oh btw, above picture show the view taken at the corridor of the unit. It is a skyline view! As the area is close to Changi Airport, all the flats and condo around the area are all quite short, given 9th floor or 10th floor the highest. So thus we got the view!

If u r wondering where is Blk 362, Tampines Street 34 here is the map:

It is actually about 5 min walk to Tampines Mart! There are Watson, Guardian, Shop and Save, Mac, Pizza hut, KFC, 1 Food Court, 1 Coffee shop and a Wet Market there!!

We're Shifting!!

Its been a long time since my last post.. Wow..

Dunno what to write actually.

On 8th May 2012, we signed on the Option to purchase form, under the seller's column.

Yes, we sold our flat! Our 1st flat that we stayed for 8years..

Technically, we are still staying there but we had received the $5k deposit so we are waiting for our 1st appointment to follow up the sales.

Actually we had been trying to sell since last year Dec11 but the process did not run smooth.

There were lots of hipcups till I wonder, can the flat really be sold off one fine day?!

Why sell? Cos we feel that changes need to be make in order to get things moving.

This is one of the changes and we hope and wish, it is a good and correct move.

We are now looking for resales flats at TAMPINES!

YES! Back to TAMPINES where I had stayed since 5yrs old.

Hope the flats searching will not take long as we hope to keep the time frame within so that we will not be homeless too long.

Was informed few days back, first appointment date is 5th July. 2nd appointment date should be soon after the 1st appoint. Chinese believe no shifting during 7th Lunar month, so latest by 16 Aug, we will shift out of our current place.

We will need a temp lodging before we find the new place + reno.

Meanwhile, Dad and mummy are taking in the dogs. They cant bear them to stay in Pets hotel. Haha..

Updates again! :)

BULL SHIT!!

If sharing of thoughts == to hear rubbish, what you think its right, instead of discussing over the matter, listen to another side of opinion.. then there is no point of sharing any thoughts.

Especially when things u r doing are opp of what u preach..

BULL SHIT!!

Changes got to be make!

Its been a long time since my last post.

Then I realise the last post it about my grandma.. Last friday, we attended the 100 days rital le!

Time flies.. 100 days are gone just with a blink of eyes.

Now, we are left with only 18 days, slightly more than 3 weeks before we say goodbye to 2011 and welcome 2012.

Will 21 Dec 2012 really be end of the world?!

Looking back at 2011, nothing is achieved! haha.. NO result after trying for so long.

I think I should not go on with KKH gynae, should approach my friend's recommended gynae instead.

Next, either reno of our master bedroom is required or a change of neighbourhood will be good.

See if the current house can sell at a good price.

Only while discussing with our friends who are in property lines then we realised there are so many rules and regulations from HDB that are beneficial to themselves rather than owners.

We are really leaser of our own flat will we manage to pay up in full.

Changes got to be make in order to move on/up otherwise everything will be status quo. Nothing will change!

03/09/2011

At 12+ mid night, I received a call from my mum.
Ah ma had left us. She had ended her suffering, to a better place.

The next day morning, I went down to my uncle's house, where the funeral will be held.
At abt 1pm, Ah ma arrived from the mortuary. She is so skinny, so unlike of how she is before.
My cousin told me, its Ah ma's birthday next week (which is this coming Sunday) but she never get to celebrate with us le.

The feeling is weird..
I feel relief for her. After all she had been bed-ridden for years, she got her leg amputate, she need to go for dialysis every 3 days, her skin was wrinkled, dry n itch alot. She suffered.
Now that she had gone to a better place, she need not to endure all these pain and uncomfort any more.
BUT she is gone.. from us. Nobody will feel good when our close ones left us.

Ah ma! R.I.P!

Updates! Updates!

Air Tickets for Hong Kong trip BOOKED!!

Hotel for Hong Kong trip BOOKED

Trip CONFIRMED!

Yeah!

But its isnt cheap even thou we are flying via Tiger Airlines.

Airfares + Hotel cost around $1k for both of us le.

Counting down!!

H.O.N.G.K.O.N.G

My friend is inviting us to join her on a trip to hongkong in Oct --> shopping, eating, shopping and eating!!!

The weather will be cold! A cold holiday that I am looking forward to!

Now got to wait and see if Mr Tay can go!
Once done, ticket n hotel can be book!

and we can start planning our virgin trip to 东方之珠！

PS: at the same time, I am telling myself not to pin too much hopes on it. I scare last min he will tell me he cant make it and then that is it.. I will be stuck in SG again.\
Actually I did thought of going myself if he cant make it but that will mean I need find another person otherwise I got to have one whole room to myself leh.. expensive!!

One statement

One day, He mentioned to me:


你嫁了给我，不知道是我幸运还是你倒霉。





I ask him why?


He said: If I din marry him, I might be happier, with lots more things, gone more places, richer etc.


It strike me, linger in my heads.


I dunno why.





Maybe bcos I did think of that before in my mind, if I din marry him..

Finally I did it!

I had been talking abt sponsoring a child thru the world vision programme since long ago.
Things nv get started
I never make the first move.

I was watching a variety show by Channel 8 on Monday night, hosted by Fann Wong, called mission impossible.
They went to the Northern area of Chang Mai Thailand, poor refuges villages to help the villagers.
To let them learn a skill and let the kids have a chance to study, that is the only way to help them out of proverty.
I see the kids on the show. All so innocent, living in bad conditions.
Its remind me! Thing that I had been thinking abt and yet i did not do it till now.

So yesterday, I did it.
There are some kids from some areas where U can see their pics and choose; there are kids from certain countries protected under the child protection and security regulations, the details of these childern are not to be publish.
I choose to sponsor a child from Thailand where the kids are protected from child law.
The organisation will choose e child for me and send me the child profile.

This morning, when I check the email, i saw an email from WV.
Its consist of my sponsored child, a little gal, aged 4 ~~ Sathida from Northern Thailand's details and an intro to the place where she stay.

I am now a proud sponsored Mother! :)

This mark a special day in the Calender!

The day I flare up at Mr Tay’s boss’s wife aka his mum, my MIL.

Its on last wed, I was on MC, was at Rivervale mall doing some grocery shopping. My phone rang, it is from Mr Tay.
I answered but there come his mum’s voice. She asked me abt the conversation I had with my FIL. What did he say, didn’t he speak in a nice tone etc.
I told her, he did but the words he say/used wasn’t nice at all.

I flare up everything at her.
I cut her mid way.
I question her (with Mr Tay backing at the back – after that then I realises they are using speaker phone to talk to me)
I asked her if she is happy now although she own a flat – fully paid up, a business etc.
She replied me she isnt.
I asked her how much is enough?
She kept silence.

The conversation ended with Mr Tay took over the phone.

The fault isnt with her. But I cant stand the way she and her HB comment abt Mr Tay, how lowly they think of him, how incapable he is in their eyes.
Mr Tay told her, I wasn’t scolding her or throwing my temper at her.
I am just pointing her things that she cant see. Letting her know how big the world is, not just around them.
I hope I did bring across the message – if she want her son, she should let him go instead of holding on him bcos he is a cheap labour. Their characters arent suit to work together. The longer they work together, the worsen their r/s is…

I dunno if she understand but I hope she does. But actually its doesn’t matter cos the move is still with Mr Tay.

PS: Mr Tay miss a gathering session with his ex coll last sat as we were working at the shop.
His buddy came back with a news, a chance to go back his old trade.
He is still considering. I dunno how long he will take but I scare he will just brush the thoughts away again and go back to his current boss after his anger subside.
I got to constantly remind him, things wasn’t solved at all, since then till now cos problem is always being brush away, put it one side and carry on with life till one day its surface again.
I strongly feel that he got to make a first move with courage to make thing change.

The day I talked back to my HB's boss aka my FIL

Not today.
I did it on last sat over the phone.
Over some stupid, ridiculous remarks by him.

The story goes like this:

I saw cheap tickets to Auckland. Planning a trip there in Nov.
So Mr Tay called up to ask if possible to go on the trip. The boss wasnt ard to answer the call. Awhile later, he called back. I was at the counter so I answered the call.
I asked him the question
Me: We saw cheap air tickets so we are wondering if he can go for the trip
Boss: He had gone for many days of leaves this year le. If he is working for other people, this way of working also wun be accepted by other people de. (Note: we only went a 5D4N trip over weekend to BKK n a 2D1N trip over weekend to Malacca)
Then he go off work from Defu early at 4+pm then only 7pm then reached woodland and tell me he overslept. (FYI, its only a one time incident. He reached home 4+ close to 5pm, he told his boss he take a short nap like 30min and will reach at 6pm. He did oversleep and thus reached woodland at 7pm -- this is what they did when Mr Tay was stationed at woodland, sometimes they reached only at 8+pm, for what?!)
He never seriously work de plus we are short handed liao etc etc etc. (He goes on complaining about Mr Tay's working attitude)
Dun talk about cheap air fare ah, I have a couple of free trips I also cant go ah. Tell u, we should work hard, earn more when we are young. Shld not be keep thinking abt play, have fun. Next time we go on tour together, dun worry about the air fare, dun need you all to pay hor?! ok?!
I got really angry. For the fact he rejected the 'application' of leave, for his comments on Mr Tay had went on for many days of leaves liao, for complaining of Mr Tay's working attitude etc etc.
Me: 如果你要这样讲,我也无话可说.
Boss: 不是我这样讲，你无话可说。etc etc etc
He went on but I continued what I want to say also. I dun care.
It is so unfair to Mr Tay. I got really fed up, pissed off and irritated!!

Straight to the point, he just unfair to his another 'worker' aka his 2nd son cos that fellow had never gone for a single holiday as of now. But H.E.L.L.O nobody said he cant go!! And in fact, Mr Tay is more than willing to cover him if he will to go but he himself dun want it. He said he cant let go of the business blah blah blah.
His 2nd son want to be a caveman that is his problem!! We dun have to become caveman just because he choose to be one! We work hard and we play hard! Even the retail shop worker had gone back twice to her hometown for 1 week each time. And coming July she is going back again.
Why she can go and Mr Tay cant?

Let me get the point straight:
1. Mr Tay only took 4 day of leaves for the BKK trip and 1 day for Malacca. So that is alot?! If he is working outside, it wun be accepted also. Please! I should have argue back, I was told to clear leaves. In fact quite a no. of my friends are too.

2. The boss did go for his free trips, unannounced somemore. We din know they went on the trip till the very day. Then Mr Tay will know the boss isnt ard and he need to cover him over the weekend.

3. The retail worker can go on leave, let her off on sat, leaving only 2 of us to work on sat. Can?! Short handed?! Ya RIGHT! our hands are short, not as long as hers.

4. We earn our own living, pay our own house and car, we spend our own holidays. I dun need sponsored trip from him at all. Esp his trip is CNY trip when I want to spend my CNY with my family members n relatives - CNY tradition. Mr Tay's reaction is the same, we can afford our own holidays, no need to be paid by other people.
I told Mr Tay: I am not going any trip with him. I will tell him, I cant take leave, my office is short handed! Haha..

5. I lead my own life! We have our own ways of relaxing and enjoying life. We enjoy travelling and that is our choice! Dun make us to follow ur(the boss) way just because U(boss) think U(boss) are right! ur(boss) logic is all work no play, ours is work hard play hard. We work smartly!
The boss just simply got this logic, work 18hrs a day is hardworking, work only 8hrs, U arent working enough. Even thou the work finished for both working hours are the same.

6. If the boss think Mr Tay's working attitude is bad, he (we) is more than happy to be sack! There are more jobs outside with much better working benefits + flexible working hours + apperication. But the fact that the boss wun sack him due to there is no way he cant find another so cheap labour!! The boss need him but yet flatten him as much as he could. Its a duplex, dun keep thinking without the boss, Mr Tay cant strive his own living. In fact, I think its the boss without Mr Tay, the retails and warehouse cant function normally.

S.T.U.P.I.D

I will still acknowledge him if I see him but that is all. I got nothing to say with unreasonable , double standard people. Dun make me argue and reason with U. We are easy going but that doesnt mean we can be and should be bully.

I know Mr Tay feel sad n hurt more than angry about holiday plans flop. He doesnt care much about the holidays but he feel sad that his hardwork had all gone down the drain. Not being appricated at all but only complains.

Hope he can get over it soon.

Sad..

Sad..
Hearing more n more of news friends around me getting preggy or wife is preggy with rabbit baby..
Sad for myself.
I think there is something wrong with us - physically n mentally.. Everything!!
Everything is just not right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let alone having the future genaration..
There isnt any passion at all.
Did I just think too much?

I am tired
I want to give up! Everything.. find my own happy self back..

我很想念那冷冷的假期

不知道为什么，到现在我还是很想念去年的墨尔本假期。
是因为那是我的第一个冬天假日吧。
又或则是因为那是我和他的至今单独的假期。

First trip on flight, was a trip to Taiwan with another couple friends. Expected cold weather however, we were not given. Its was humid, hot alothugh the day end at 5pm.
2nd trip was to Bangkok with a big batch of friends! Haha..
3rd trip was to Bangkok still, with slightly lesser people but still there are 4 of them.
4th trip was the Australia trip! Which we went out of Singapore for 10Days, just he and me. I missed the weather, the people, the things we see, the time we spent together. Just us! Nope, we din manage to bring another little one back with us. Too bad. We need more trips! Haha..
5th trip was to Bangkok again! Haha.. With another couple friends.

So yes! 我这一生人，到现在只坐过5次飞机！哈哈哈！more to come! I know as long as the world stay.

Of cos in between, there are a couple of day trips, 2D1N trips, needless to be say all were complete with friends!

I dunno when will be our trip. Dunno if he can apply ‘leaves’ and how long of ‘leave’ can he go for it.
I had yet to plan my blocked leave this year.
He was commenting going Perth in November to find his friend。
我只希望假期快点来。我需要透透气啊！

PS:
Sidetrack – we are going Malacca on 21/22 for 2D1N trip．His brother called last week to ask so we are working on both 14/15 since we are going on trip next weekend. We had plans for the 15th le. So he told him no, we arent. His brother commented: So u r taking leaves la, not swopping shift hor?!
What kind of stupid logic is this?
I ask him why he din go on and ask – So I got leave de huh? 1 year how many days huh? So I can applied long leaves lor? Can apply no pay leave or not? Then got MC or not? Got medical claims?!
What kind of nonsenese are these?!
Who he think he is?

R.U.B.B.I.S.H

Things do not always work out as planned.

Things get complicated.
People get complicated.

Things just doesnt work out as planned.
We will not know cos we arent GOD.
We cant predict and expect things to happen exactly the way we predicted.
We have to accept cos life still goes on, earth still turn, its doesnt stop at all.

Learn how to cope with it, get over it.
We cant be be living in gloomy mood, live in regrets and expect things will be back to what we expected. It will never happened.

This is what we can do to encourage ourselves to move on.
To treasure what we have and what is around.

Hope things just get better!

一个人住

其实我可以一个人住。
房屋代款，家里的开销我能还。
一个人住，不用洗、晒、收两人的衣。。
反正现在也没有很大的分别。