Differences

Had an arguements again this morning.

We just could not agree on some views. I wonder is it my way of expression is wrong? or he simply cant get what I am trying to say.
At the same time, I know he is thinking the same thing - I just cant get him.

To him, he had been repeating this - I am just trying to argue my ways to win. I feel that due to this fact, he doesnt listen to my any explanation cos to him, its just another BULLSHIT that I am trying to get myself win the arguement.

He will just simply end it by saying forget abt it.. U WIN!

He said next time none of his business, he shall not speak. No speech, no arguement. I told him, no talk.. no differences, no quarrels.
He said he is tired..
Then I am not is it?
To need to take in ppl who I dun want to in my hse
To settle things whenever there is arguments between the olds n the not so young.
To be the bridge when needed to.

Just because I am the woman?! Then I dun want to be. U know how much brain cells are wasted each time?!

At some times, I wonder.. why are we so different? Really opp attracts?

Whenever we are together the whole day, there tend to be arguement. Esp sat, I hate it when the arguement start in the morning. For the whole day, there will be silent, black face and ignore. Me to him or via versa.

We cant stay together for long hours facing each others? That is true unless we are on holiday.

Sometimes I feel sad that our r/s is like that. sweet in a way but maybe not totally the way I wanted.
Our lifes are getting boring I think. work, work, work, work... from Mon to Sat. Sunday will usually be wake up late, lunch, hsework, to my mum place. Ended..
I hate his job!

Dun talk abt childern.. I really think no help with having childern. Perhaps more arguements, differences in treating, raising the kids.

Perhaps Silent is the real gold.

Merry Post Xmas!

Merry Post Xmas! Haha.. I am late.. very late.
Due to the holidays I took mid month, I am getting my retribution now - rushing to finish up work before mth end and also.. 2009 coming to an end.

No Xmas countdown for me.
We went to his Aunt's hse at Punggol, they were having BBQ. Mainly just join in, chit chat and its Christmas liao. No countdown, no screaming, yelling shouting.. and we went home. Haha...

I slept thru on xmas day - managed to steal time, nv go down to where I am suppose to. He went alone and came back ard 4pm.
We were meeting Mr and Mrs 'Mo', KS, Ex Ms *hub and her HB for steamboat dinner at 7th Storey at Wikie Edge. For the price, its good! We paid $15.80nett + $0.30 for wet towel - we got buffet chilli crabs - crab meat not too good btw but 'gong' is big. For the price, its good enough. Plus they got man tou, desserts, vege are buffet style too. Where else for meat wise, its ala cart. We ordered and they served. Oh come with free refillable drinks too. Isnt that worth?! Had a great time eating.
After which Mr 'Mo' actually booked a apartment at Citadines which is just upstairs. He was clearing his allowances for yr 2009. So we tabao starbucks coffee, went out to the apartment. Not bad wor.. We played Wii! Haha.. First time, had a great time too!

Boixing day - working as usual since its a sat. Supposed to meet Mr and Mrs 'Mo' for MJ at the apartment but Mr 'Mo' down with stomach upset wor. So Mr and Mrs Tan came over instead. We played till morning ard 7am with Mr Tay winning ard $60+ for a game of $0.20, $0.40. He is super lucky!!

Sunday - Ms BKK is back!! Sunday ended fast as we woke up at only 2pm+. After lunch, bath the dogs, we went down to Tampines. With that, our long weekend is over..

Next long weekend - counting down at Lunar with Mr Panda, Ms BKK and some other friends. Afterwhich, its working days.. days after days 1/1/2010-03/1/2010!! Its another retribution - Mr Tay pay back time for his holiday at BKK..
What a way to start a new YEAR!

Back from Holidays..

Back from BKK, in fact back to work liao.
Got to face the same black square box again.

We been waiting for so long for the holidays but the 4 days past just like that.
No choice la.. Happy times passed fast.
Photos are uploaded in Facebook.

Din buy alot this time, nothing much to get exactly. More of eating n eating n eating. Haha..
And also got quite a bit of toileries. Haha.. Cheaper there mah..

Then when we came back, heard 2 pieces of so call good news from Ms Tay.
1. She is shifting back. She had a talk with Senior Mr and Mrs Tay sometimes back. Its surprising that Senior Mr Tay actually talk things out with her.. in calm manner. Anyway, whatever, she got to bow her head cos she needed funds to continue her Uni studies.
She shld be shifting back this coming sunday.

2. Auntie should be shifting out to Fernvale - her ex husband's hse. Ever since her ex passed away, I had yet to see her 2 childern. It had been 3 weeks liao. They had been staying at Fernvale. Heard from Ms Tay, her ex MIL had been asking to shift over too ( i dunno what is the reason). Partly to take care of the eldest son(from her ex's previous marriage) too. Heard that the r/s between the eldest son n her isnt bad after all. She mentioned to Ms Tay that since the 2 childern arent coming back too so she might as well shift over there too.

Mr Tay was telling me.. so after long wait, its coming to an end..

I hope so cos for part 2, it isnt confirm.

Simply Selfish..

2 days ago.. marked the 7th year Mr Tay hold my hands but no celebrations, no gift, nothing.
He in fact forget abt it.
Week before, he was telling me that he will be going dinner with his 'friends' (a grp of ppl know at the shop - 1 being a 60s+ customer who eventually now go to the shop everyday, eat lunch, talk rubbish, 1 is the shop owner of opp cake shop, a fews others of ppl either live ard there or friends of friends). He simply forget abt it. Being a Female, I will be lying to say I DUN MIND.

When I remind him, he look at the calender and said he agreed to the dinner without knowing the date. That mean, he cant back out. FINE!

Who know due to unknown reason, his right eye got swollen in the middle of mon mid nite. Eye Mo doesnt help. He got himself eye wash on monday, doesnt help at all. So tuesday he went to see doc as such I applied FFL. Only thus, we get to lunch together at HG mall Ajisen. Then he sent me to office and he went back to work before going out with them at nite.

I began to hate his job. When his mum told me abt the reason why they got this shop and him to run the shop long ago, I din really mind the reason but now I think I do.
She said: is to tie him down. So that he got no time to go out with his friends - in her eyes, those no good friends ( come to think of it, she nv mentioned such things abt 2nd master's friends, she sometimes said the same things to some friends of Ms Tay).
Never did she realise, he got no times for me either. I am always alone, eat dinner alone, alone at home ( of cos not now). Mr Tay only get to knock off early on Tuesday and Friday - not too early either, leaving work place at least 730pm, reaching here at ard 8pm.
What time do people usually meet for dinner? 7pm. Hai..

Then due to the limit time he had, if got friends jio, he will meeting his friends for dinner or drinks during these 2 days. There goes my weekday chance.
I am stuck in the shop on sat.
Leaving Sunday for us to really spend together, to pack house, to do all sort of things that are suppose to be done.
I HATE IT!!

I cant blame him for meeting with his friends cos that are his only time too to catch up with his friends.
His parents' thinkings are simply selfish!
I remembered her reason of asking us to get a 5room flat - so that he got no excess money in CPF to do investment. What does she know?! That is one of the way to make ur money in CPF to grow.

Recently she called up the worker in shop and asked her to pass the msg to Mr Tay to tell his dad himself that we are going BKK next week. She said he had never agreed to the trip beforehand. Ya right, we told him like 5mths beforehand. He has ample time to plan man power. Not as if we are telling u this week that next week we are flying. Basically they just simply ignore abt it as to them, it is simply not important. Never care about other people feelings de. They want to work 24/7, 365days that is their problem, their thinking. They cant expect and want people to think just like them. I repeat: We work to live, not live to work!

Mr Tay said he heck care. They better 'fire' him off if they arent happy about it.
Seriously I hope that too. Their thinking is if not for the shop, what can he work for a living?
Oh Pls.. he had spent 7 years in Air force, he got a diploma in Mechincal engineering. As long as willing to work, wun die de lor. And I dun see any reason why he cant get a much better job then.
Not as if they are paying damm high salary?! No benefits, nothing!
Even he cant get a similiar salary, there will be at least 10 days of AL, medical leaves etc lor. And then yearly got increasment, got variable bonus or at least AWS or special bonus. And definately more rest time also!

I was thinking this time round if such things going to happen again, I will use recorder to record down every single word his dad said. That its them who 'sack' him, not he choose to leave himself. When they go around telling other people how unfilial this son is, choose to leave blah blah blah.. I will make sure the recording be heard by every single one. Haha..

**EVIL ME** I just feel that they deserve it!

The earth dun turn because of them only and they arent the law simply because they are the parents.

Finally they are back!

Radio Online is finally back!

Can listen to it while working leh cos the reception here is horrible.
Basically no station can be received.

So happy!

Listening to YES 933 now!

Life is so unpredictable.

Last week got no times to post anything cos was struggling to finish out work as I am now handling all accounts alone. There is some temp reshuffling of accounts as 1 of my coll is going to take maternity leaves in Jan2010. Someone else got to take over a portion of her job while me got to take on a portion of the someone job lor.. What to do?!

Had a very 'INTERESTING, EXCITING' as well as heavy hearted weekend.

Sat - had a quarrel with Mr Tay. Resulting in I went home alone since he refused to talk to me. Of cos all were fine the next day when both of us cool down.

Sun - Heard a piece of news that the Aunt's ex HB had passed away suddenly. He had a fall - on the floor or hit on something not accounted. Only know he got a big bump on his head after the fall. His eldest son want to send him to hospital, he refused and say want to rest on sofa. He sat there, vomitted and went the son want to get him something to eat, he realised the dad was sitting there, motionless. In fact, his body felt cold. The son called for ambulance and when the people arrived, they were told that he had stopped breathing for at least 30min. Still they send him to hospital, hoping to save him but in vain.

I had not seen him at all.
Impression of him were all bad. When I first get to know Mr Tay, they were still together. But he was beating her now n then especially after he drink. After a while, came to know they were in the midst of divorce. In between, heard she went back to him but ran out later again. I am not sure abt the kids custody status but the kids stay with the mum with occassional visits to his place.
I dunno how Aunt feel. Will she be sad? I think most likely will. After all once husband and wife.
As for the kids, I cant see anything from them. I dunno if they hv no feelings or just hiding it. But at age 15 and 12, I bet they do understand what is happening and I think its did hit them quite hard.

Mr Tay commented that life is so fragile and can be gone so suddenly.
I agreed and that is why I always say treasure what you have now.

* But still, both him and his sister arent doing anything regarding their r/s with their parents.*

Steamboat buffet on 17/11/09

We are bothered by what happened recently deep down.
I dun feel right, looking at him, he doesnt feel that right too.
But still.. We went ahead with our dinner celebration.

It is not somewhere with very good atmosphere or somewhere very expensive but its who is having the dinner session with u.

We enjoyed the dinner despite all.. We just want to enjoy the night.

Its drizzling when he came to pick me up otherwise we will want to have the dinner at Punggol Sakura Charcoal grill & Shabu Shabu instead.

So we went to AMK to have porridge steamboat buffet instead.
Its not very fasnastic but for the price we paid, its good enough.
For $13.90, U get to choose 2 soup bases - Chicken, porridge or Tom yum. Then it come with some fried cooked food choices, steamboat spread - prawns, fish, meats, vegetable, vegetables even red dates and wolfberries to add into your soup. The prawns are really fresh too.

Beside, its include drinks and ice cream!

Din take a lot of picture cos was busy eating. Just some to witness the dinner! ha..

The banner at the entrance. Its $15.00 on weekend.
Prawns peeled by Mr Tay. I just need to eat! haha..

Cooked Food - Nugget, fried wanton and Niong hiangFirst round

2nd round where I added the wolfberries into the porridge base - NICE!

Should not let it bother me but...

Talking abt anniversary, talking abt dinner.. Its remind me:

Last week or the week before, I went back HG for dinner with SIL.

Casually, SIL mentioned abt her 2nd DIL not wanting to hv customary wedding.

Mum said no, apparently she has told her will be 5 years later.. and said how can dun have dinner. Like that how to 交代to her parents. Like taking advantage of the gal's side.

I was casually mentioning the chat contents to Mr Tay on sunday during our brunch timing.

He said: she wun let go so easily de.. Its her fav son.. although she did mention its tiring, she dun want to go thru again 2 yrs ago after our dinner.

And he remind me: she did mention how abt dun wan to hv the dinner?! yes! She did mention about us not having the dinner. Its both Mr Tay - The senior one and the junior saying 'NO' - Senior one said both are eldest child in the family, how can dun hv? Junior one saying he got to give a 交代 to my parents. How come she nv thought of taking advantage of my family at that time, how come she dun need to 交代 to my parents at that time?!

Anyway the dinner was go ahead of cos.

Junior Mr Tay added in.. She just see my dad not up cos he isnt working - not surprising. She does hv this attitude of seeing ppl not up as n when, here n there. But its just nv cross my mind till Mr Tay mentioning it.

Well.. Its over, We had our dinner, we had our stay at Presidential suite with jacuzzi tub. So?!

17th Nov - 2nd Wedding Anniversary

Its been 2 years.. Time flies..
It seems just yesterday. Haha..
Memories are still quite fresh in mind.
I still rem bits of details here and there in my head.
Rem the presidential suite - Haha.. think its the one and only time we got to stay in the presidential suite liao.
Rem my wedding gown - how I love the lace embro and the blue trim.
Rem what song did Mr Tay sing to gain himself entry to the house! Haha..

There is still a long road aheading us.

Happy Anniversary Mr Tay!

Chance upon this...

I thought its rather encouraging and meaningful.. Use it to encourage myself. Haha..

One day I decided to quit... quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality...
I wanted to quit my life.
I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.
God, I said. Can you give me one good reason not to quit?
His answer surprised me...
Look around, He said. Do you see the fern and the bamboo?
Yes, I replied.
When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds,
I took very good care of them... I gave them light.
I gave them water.
The fern quickly grew from the earth.
Its brilliant green covered the floor... Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo.

In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful.
And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed.
But I did not quit on the bamboo He said.

In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed.
But I would not quit.

In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed.
I would not quit. He said.

Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.
Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...
But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall.
It had spent the five years growing roots.
Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.
I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle.
He said to me. Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling,
you have actually been GROWING roots I would not quit on the bamboo...
I will NEVER quit on you.

Don't compare yourself to others He said. The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern.
Yet they both make the forest beautiful.
Your time will come, God said to me. You will rise high.
How high should I rise?, I asked.
How high will the bamboo rise?, He asked in return.
As high as it can, I answered
Yes. He said, Give me glory by rising as high as you can.
I left the forest and bring back this story.

I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.
Never Give up - just keep the faith!!!!!

Author unknown

What is the reason?!

The DIL was chatting with her SIL last nite and a question pop up if her mind:
What is the Father angry about?

The SIL said she dunno...
She thought over it.. and really wonder.. what is he angry with?
She decided to ask her brother.
Her brother also dunno..

But he is really angry till he slum down his daughter phone ytd when she called to look for her mother..

Weird Person!

Updated: 17/11/09
He is weird! Very Weird.. He taught the kids to tell someone personally if need help to show sincerely. But when the mum want to call the son to ask him to attend wedding dinner on their behalf, he disagreed. Saying the son is using this wedding issue as a threat to threaten them. Oh Pls! What to threaten? What does he get in exchange of the threaten? He like to assume his own thoughts as others, want to jump into conclusion just like that. He want to jumble up all things and ensure nothing goes smooth.. He is such a selfish fellow! Never care abt the mum's feelings, others feelings. Just want to make the whole world as unhappy..

New gaget in the house!

Sorry for the not so clear picture.
Mr Tay eagerly wanted to get this last friday. So he came to pick me up at Anchorvale CC where me and Mdm Tan were having our dinner, drop Mdm Tan at SK MRT station and off we went to Hougang Fairprice Xtra. Its a promo for NTUC union members. Members are able to get this GPS set at only $169, original price is $399. The staff requested to see the membership card thou the sales flyer did not indicate price is only available for members.
I asked him why so eager? If not we can always get it on sunday. After gotten it, he said cos with it, he will be able to drive me to where I want to go on sat nite mah. True! Without it, there is a limited places he know how to go. Thks Mr Tay!
So far we had tried it and had been not bad, accurate.. Only that the map show mainly main road or not updated enough? Its doesnt ask us to turn into the small road which we usually took when going home instead asking us to go one big round!
No chance to try it for route which we dunno at all yet.. Hope the chance will come soon!

Things are getting from bad to worse..

Follow by the elder son not talking to his parents.. now its the daughter..
She shifted out of the house last weekend, move in to her elder bro's..
They are too much! Simply too much the DIL said..
The house got no maid now - The DIL foresee problems will surface when the maid is gone and she is right!

The 2nd young master is at home the whole day... DID nothing..
The daughter came home after work + going out, kena bomb with all of - so free go out / not helping out with the hsework... WTF?!
The 2nd young master isnt human being ah? No hands? No legs? Intelligent disabled? Or simply so delicated that NO NEED TO lift a single finger??!!

Her reason: He is tried from all the working..
HELLO! Who isnt tired from working?! It is a self choice to work late, working extra hrs etc. Its his own choice too to push himself to the max; to rest the least.
Why should others suffer due to that someone own selfish choice?!
He live to work.. That is his problem!
Others live to enjoy life.. work for money to fulfill their dreams of enjoying life.. Just bcos of this doesnt mean the rest of the world are working hard enough!
Its a question of working smart.

The mother told everyone - she is sick la.. blah blah blah.. Then yet she got to bring dinner up to the 2nd young master to eat.. Why? Handicapped? Cannot come down? or bed ridden?
Why are they only bullying the 1st son and youngest daughter? Just bcos they dunno how to throw temper that last forever like the 2nd young master?! The DIL Believe strongly, its a choice! Not they dunno how to; just if there is a need for?

Now -- be it by the father or that someone else.. they cancelled the daughter's phone line. Is there a need to push things till like that?
Why are they worsen things instead of solving it?

How lucky we are

Chance upon this when I was surfing the site for some infomation.

How expensive are housing now?!

With the price i paid for my 5rm, I cant even get the 4rm now.

Mthly installments are high too! The caluclation is based on 90% loan with a 30 yrs loan mind you..

So how lucky are we to get our home sweet home much earlier..

Mr Tay's Birthday - 061009

Its my Mr Tay's birthday. Cracking my brain to give him something, he doesnt need anything.

So thought get a special cake.. search online and found this.

Cake look nice, dunno taste nice or not.

But since got delivery, why not?!

So I ordered a Irish whisky cake with delivery - delivery timing at 5-7pm BUT its came at 2pm+. The guy passed me the invoice, indeed show timing as 2-5pm. Nvm, wrong cake even thou he collect the correct $$ from me. Called him and luckily, he is still at carpark, he came back, pick up the cake to do an exchange, show him my email, the correct timing and the CORRECT cake I ordered.

He said he will be back with the correct cake at the correct timing.

5 hours later.. I got the cake! The figures are hand made of candy.. Melted if not in fridge!

Doesnt the male look just like Mr Tay? haha..

I wishing You a Happy Birthday and everything run smooth for u!

PS:Btw, the cake is yummy but service abit... cannot make it.

Ferrero Rocher Chocolate

What so special abt it?
Its was given by the company - for celebrating of wins exclusive rights to Barclays Premier League or the EPL. Its of a 3 yr period starting from Aug 2010.
My coll was commenting then I shall be very busy liao.. I revert, I might not be at the same dept next yr?! Haha...

Foot mask - 去旧迎新

No.. Not chinese new year yet.
Recently saw this ad selling a product call milky foot - suppose to help to remove the dead skin and reveal the baby foot skin like. But its ex! selling at $39 a pair wor..

Then I found this pair at Gmarket, Selling only $18. Same from Taiwan.. Try this intead and It work lor.. I first use the mask on 18/09/09, peeling shld start 7 days later.. which is 25/9/09 and whole process last maximum 30days. So far half foot done.. another half to go.I tink I will get more to remove all the dead skin of my feet cos one pack not enough. haha...

The packThe pair of plastic inside, in shapre of our feet, there is some liquid inside. Suppose to put whole feet in, taped with the tape attached.

Wear sock to secure the plastic at the same time, easier to move ard. Timing is ard 90min to 120min depend on how thick the dead skins is.

Oh ya.. got to record down.. my foot before putting on the mask.

This is taken on 23/9/09, dead skin shown clearly.

Right leg - 23/9/09

Right leg - 25/9/09 starting to peel.

27/9/09 - its peeling! and still continue till now..

We see how its goes..

New Rings

Mr Tay lost the one we bought abt 2 yr back, the ones that are featured in our wedding photos.

So.. we got a new pair - stainless steel still since he is more rough with the rings and in e event that is lost again, we will not be heart pain. Isnt it a unique pair? Its square in shape instead of the usual round one.L

ike that I will be able to hv new ring, every 1 or 2 yrs?! haha.. Our engaged pair are kept in the drawer. Wear only during occassion like CNY, wedding dinner.

Btw, this is our 3 pair of 'rough wear' rings liao..

More and more holidays PLS!

Its been sometimes since last entry..
Stiuation at home doesnt get any better.. basically now the Elder one isnt talking to the 2 old ones.
The youngest one is avoiding at all cost if possible.
And I am getting tired to bother abt it..
I just want peaceful life! So dun care! haha..

Now looking forward to my next holiday in December... going back to BKK! Yeah!

And I am thinking to go for another holiday next yr during CNY timing since 初一 is Sunday and 初二 is Monday.
Then 初三 which is Tuesday is a public holiday so am thinking can take 3 day of leave to enjoy a week of off! And because Mr Tay will only start work on at least 初六 so thought we can go holiday. （Btw, his parents are going Korea. We arent not ask if interested or not. Heard that they asked his brother and his wife, they cant make it - going back M'sia and they assume us and the sister dun want to go also.. FINE!)

Was tempted to go Japan! Cos coll booked her Osaka tickets at only $398nett per pax - its a promo by m'sia airlines. But the lodging and expenses there will be high. Since we just want to get away, maybe can just go KL + genting. Haha..
No concrete plans as of now..

09 - 09 - 2009

This is a special day..
How special? A new member added in to the Tay Family.
It is Mr Tay's Brother and his beloved ROM ceremony day.
The new Mrs Tay's friend was there to help to take some official photos using his SLR.
While me - was there taking photos with my new Fujiflim camera. Haha..

Photos will be up later when i load them. hee..

Photos upload in face book! :)